Inspiration Friday: Charles Dickens on friends and chocolate

There is nothing better than a friend, unless it is a friend with chocolate. – Charles Dickens

It’s always good to laugh, and this quote is funny.Seriously, though, chocolate is a comfort food for many people, and it’s good to know what your comfort triggers are for the times in your job search or other goal pursuit when you need to be comforted.

Do you have friends to lean on when you need a pick me up?

Do you know what comforts you?

How can you build in support and refreshment as a regular part of your To Do list?

Inspiration Friday: Noel Coward on the one thing more important than talent

Thousands of people have talent.  I might as well congratulate you for having eyes in your head.  The one and only thing that counts is:  Do you have staying power?  –  Noel Coward

There is something to be said about persistence, staying the course, being more than just a flash-in-the–pan.  Do you have staying power?

This is also a great reminder that you are probably good enough to get started (or keep going).  You don’t have to spend your precious time improving yourself, but rather you need to get out there and stay out there!

Are you going to run at the slightest obstacle?  Are you going to beat yourself up about not having enough talent?  Or will you stick it out?

Inspiration Friday: Japanese Proverb on Laughing

Time spent laughing is time spent with the Gods. – Japanese proverb

Do you laugh loud and often?  Maybe I just have too much comedy on the brain because I have a show tomorrow night, but I’m a big fan of laughter.

When you’re upbeat, people want to be around you.  For jobseekers, this means people want to get to know you, refer you, even hire you.  (Comedy, specifically, can even help your job search technique.)

When you’re positive, you’re more open to opportunities.  You have confidence which begets more opportunities.

When you laugh, you tap into a universal emotion.  People empathize with you.  It’s easier to develop rapport.

Laugh loud and often.

Inspiration Saturday: Chevy Chase on vacations

This is no longer a vacation.  It’s a quest.  It’s a quest for fun. – Chevy Chase as Clark Griswold in National Lampoon’s Vacation

I just came back from our first family trip to Europe (London and Paris).  It was just a few days in each city, so we had a full itinerary everyday.  It was very unlike the recent vacations we’ve spent lying about on the Jersey Shore.  Those have been great too, but we all agreed this was the best vacation we had.  There was something about the purpose of it — we all were soaking in a lot of new experiences, tastes, sensations.  There was also a sense of urgency — our older daughter goes to college in less than 3 years, so we could put off the big family trip no longer.  It was a vacation-turned-quest.

Do your breaks leave you energized?

Do your rest periods keep you active — learning and stretching yourself — while also refreshing yourself?

Are there any quests you want to take?

Do you even take vacations????

Inspiration Friday: Yogi Berra on observation

You can observe a lot just by watching – Yogi Berra

Do you find this quote funny or annoying?  It sounds obvious but it’s actually quite deep.  For me, it reminds me of how important the obvious is, of how important the basics are.

A lot of the people I see deep in job search or career change are looking for bigger, better, and bolder tactics, instead of going back to the fundamentals of good job search technique — knowing what you want, knowing your market, building relationships to make a match between these two.

A lot of struggling to achieve a goal comes back to the basics of execution — make time to focus on your goal, pour energy into what really matters to you, invest in what you really care about.

It’s not about doing any one special tactic.  It’s about doing and continuing to do to make forward progress.  What are you doing for the things that you say matter to you the most?

Inspiration Friday: Soren Kierkegaard on Daring

To dare is to lose one’s footing momentarily.  To not dare is to lose oneself. – Soren Kierkegaard 

Do you dare take a chance?  Are you playing it too safe in life or career?

This doesn’t mean investing all of your money into a new business or quitting your job to join the circus.  It does mean thinking creatively, trying different things or at least leaving yourself open to the possibility that things will change.

You will change.  Your interests, circumstances, and goals evolve over time.  Do you dare to do things differently and step into your new self?

Inspiration Friday: Thomas Adams on the cost of passion

Passion costs me too much to bestow it on every trifle. – Thomas Adams 

Passion is expensive.  It takes your mental focus, your emotional energy, your physical stamina.  Are you frittering yours away?

Are you expending precious energy worrying about small details of things that really don’t matter?

Or are you doing the opposite:  numbing yourself down, doing everything halfway, going through life defeated and apathetic?

Take back your passion.  And if you have it already, don’t waste it on trivial things.

Inspiration Friday: Rita Mae Brown

Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results. — Rita Mae Brown

If you’re caught in a loop where you are working really hard but not getting the results that you want, stop what you are doing.  You will not be losing time; you will be gaining focus.  Whatever you are doing is not working, so doing more of it will just give you fatigue, not success.

It is tempting to keep plugging away, assuming that if you just worked harder or longer then everything will be ok.  Sometimes this is true — if you review your plan and still believe in what you are doing, then by all means see it through.  But if you have doubts, take the time to reassess.  It may look like quiet time, but what you are doing is productive.

Many jobseekers I see feel like they are working very hard with little result, but in a few minutes of looking at their situation, I can see they are working on the wrong things or with the wrong approach.  If you’re not sure that you have the right strategy, get support from someone who knows.  Make sure you are working on the right things and with the right techniques.  But please don’t keep doing what you are doing, hoping that things will change.  That’s insane and it will drive you crazy!

Inspiration Friday: Get in over your head – Robert Donat

Get in over your head — Robert Donat of GPS Insight on the Inc 500 2010 list

When I hear this quote, I think of falling in love. You’re swept away. You’re losing control. This is bigger than you initially thought.

Can you fall head over heels in love with your business idea, job search target, or 2011 resolution?

Can you push yourself to think bigger and do more than you initially thought?

Can you lose yourself (and therefore lose some of your limiting assumptions)?

Inspiration Friday: Napoleon Bonaparte

“Take time to deliberate; but when the time for action arrives, stop thinking and go in.”– Napoleon Bonaparte

If you need a push, get a push.  We all have blind spots.  I can’t seem to lose weight:  Here’s Why I Didn’t Lose Weight In 2010.  I start personal training with Jessica Watkins next week.  It would be nice if I could “just do it” and I can for some things but clearly I can’t for that.  Remember that the cost of inaction is often more than the cost of the push. 

Have you gone in yet to your big goal?

What’s stopping you?